Forget the origin of St Valentine’s Day, because based on research its really quite morbid, but in today’s world Valentine’s Day is a day to express how you feel towards the one you love.
To most of us, love is a powerful and an emotionally strong word. Not one to be used frivolously.
And not being judgy, you may even ‘love’ more than one. It may be your partner, colleague, neighbour, or your circle of friends. It really doesn’t matter who your valentine is, what is important is that you tell them you care.
Remember Valentine’s Day doesn’t need to be all red roses, pink candy and all things sultry. It can be whatever you want it to be, and you can choose to celebrate it, or ignore it, as you see fit. But it won’t go away, it will be back next year, so why not just embrace it and use February 14 as the day you use your love language.
What’s love language you ask? According to Dr Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, it is words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch and gifts.
It’s a simple philosophy that can be applied across many different places, such as the workplace and home.
Here’s some ideas to help you communicate your love language this Valentine’s Day:
Words of affirmation
Say something positive to someone you care for. Tell them they’ve done or are doing a great job. It could be as simple as commenting on the beauty of a neighbour’s garden. It could literally make their day.
Acts of service
This involves doing activities that require planning or effort. Plan a drive to a favourite destination, bake a cake or dinner for your neighbour or help a colleague to clear their workload.
It’s as simple as providing someone with your undivided attention. No sneaky looks at your phone, no sending texts, just genuine undivided attention to let them know they are your priority right here and now.
Ever felt like you just needed a hug? Or given a high-five to a team member for nailing a presentation? Or introduced yourself to your new neighbour with a strong handshake? Remember how good it felt? Keep it up. And keep it appropriate.
Giving gifts is just as rewarding as being on the receiving end. That feeling of gratefulness when your boss buys you a coffee, or giving your neighbour a tea towel because the print reminds you of their dog and you know they’ll love it. Make it sentimental for maximum appreciation.
So this Valentine’s Day go ahead, express your love for that special someone. Embrace your inner love language to deliver messages that you care to your special people. If we all shared in this kindness, even for a day, the world would be a much better place.
As said by the Corinthians; Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.