St Valentine’s Day. February 14 is when Cupid, the god of affection according to Roman mythology, pulls out his bow year after year and shoots magical gold-tipped arrows at hearts all over the world to help us fall deeply in love.
Or so legend has it.
In today’s world Valentine’s Day is a day to express how you feel towards the one you love. And if we’re being honest, some of us may need that annual push from Cupid to actually reveal our true feelings.
Because love is a powerful and an emotionally strong word. And not one to be used lightheartedly.
Regardless whether you have a partner or not, it really doesn’t matter who your valentine is, what is important is that you tell them you care. It could be a friend or a colleague. Or you could have more than one valentine. No judgements here.
Just know that Valentine’s Day doesn’t need to be all red roses, pink candy and all things sultry. It can be whatever you want it to be and you can choose to celebrate it, or ignore it, as you see fit. But it won’t go away, it will be back next year, so embrace it and use February 14 as the day you use your love language.
What’s love language you ask? According to Dr Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, its words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch and gifts.
It’s a simple philosophy that can be applied across many different places, such as the workplace and home.
Here’s some ideas to help you communicate your love language this Valentine’s Day:
Words of affirmation
Say something positive to someone you care for. Tell them they’ve done or are doing a great job. It could be as simple as commenting on the beauty of a neighbour’s balcony garden. It could literally make their day.
Acts of service
This involves doing activities that require planning or effort. Plan a drive to a favourite destination with your dearest friend, bake a cake for your neighbour, help a colleague clear their workload, or arrange a romantic dinner with your partner.
It’s as simple as providing someone with your undivided attention. No sneaky looks at your phone, no sending text messages, just genuine undivided attention to let them know they are your priority right here and now.
Have you ever felt like you just need a hug? Ever high fived a colleague after a presentation? Or introduced yourself to a new neighbour with a strong handshake? Remember how good it felt? Keep it up. And keep it appropriate and abide by covid restrictions.
Giving gifts is just as rewarding as being on the receiving end. That feeling of gratefulness when your boss buys you a coffee or giving your neighbour a tea towel because the design reminds you of their dog and you know they’ll love it. Make it sentimental for maximum appreciation.
This Valentine’s Day go ahead and express your love for that special someone. Embrace your inner love language to deliver messages that you care to your special people. If we all shared in this kindness, even for a day, the world would be a much better place.
As said by the Corinthians; Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.